All tagged trauma

Break Down the Baggage: How to Forgive

Self-Sabotage. Revenge. Arrogance. Self-Sacrifice. Isolation. All these expressions of baggage are often rooted in our biological and emotional reactions to being victimized in some way, shape or form. We often exhibit these habits because we have been hurt or let down by someone, whether they be parents, caretakers, significant others, best friends, or maybe even acquaintances or strangers. 

The Baggage Breakdown (Part 4): Arrogance

This one hardly needs explaining, but for fun let's look at the stereotype. You know the type, the one who speaks with so much bluster about their talents and achievements, you have no idea how they haven't won an Grammy, Oscar, Emmy, Tony and Noble Peace Prize every year since their inception. The one whose "counter-punch" is exacted against anyone who dares to question their perfection. 

The Baggage Breakdown (Part 2): Revenge

It was the record heard ‘round the world. Whatever you might think of her as a person not withstanding, Beyoncé’s 2016 album “Lemonade” and actually a quite a few of her previous works has paid homage to the raw and caustic feelings women and men feel as a result of betrayal. When I think of the baggage of revenge, a few words on this album crystalize it perfectly: “When you hurt me, you hurt yourself."

The Baggage Breakdown

Colloquially, the term baggage has been thrown around to mean that something is wrong with a particular person or their ways of reacting to a situation. It signals that past issues are at play and the person in question has not managed to get over it. The interesting thing is we all carry around baggage in unexpected ways. Some forms are even socially acceptable. Take for example, society's collective disdain for "the ex". We've all seen the memes, you know the ones that depict picture perfect pettiness (for reference, please see examples below). We chuckle or actually laugh out loud at these because 1) They are, in fact, hilarious; 2) They perfectly capture all our feelings about those past situations; and 3) They identify, in exaggerated ways, the justice we feel they deserve for causing said pain.