All in The Baggage Breakdown
Self-Sabotage. Revenge. Arrogance. Self-Sacrifice. Isolation. All these expressions of baggage are often rooted in our biological and emotional reactions to being victimized in some way, shape or form. We often exhibit these habits because we have been hurt or let down by someone, whether they be parents, caretakers, significant others, best friends, or maybe even acquaintances or strangers.
Isolation, one more of those widely held socially acceptable forms of baggage. This is perhaps the baggage that I most relate to, it is after all so easy to feel justified and comfortable with. It's all over the memes and it is actually everywhere; jokes about how we don't trust people, want to stick to ourselves, and can't really stand to let people into our lives.
This one hardly needs explaining, but for fun let's look at the stereotype. You know the type, the one who speaks with so much bluster about their talents and achievements, you have no idea how they haven't won an Grammy, Oscar, Emmy, Tony and Noble Peace Prize every year since their inception. The one whose "counter-punch" is exacted against anyone who dares to question their perfection.
So, maybe you are not the one who won't let your anger take over because of your traumatic event, and you also are not about to allow yourself to repeat your mistakes and self-sabotage. But then you say to yourself, "I won't stoop to their level," so instead you decide to "kill them with kindness" or be a better person in general. This angle of of course proves them wrong.
It was the record heard ‘round the world. Whatever you might think of her as a person not withstanding, Beyoncé’s 2016 album “Lemonade” and actually a quite a few of her previous works has paid homage to the raw and caustic feelings women and men feel as a result of betrayal. When I think of the baggage of revenge, a few words on this album crystalize it perfectly: “When you hurt me, you hurt yourself."